Our shadow selves are the parts of ourselves that we are ashamed of and want no one see; the parts of ourselves that we’re told are wrong to express (such as anger, frustration) by our loved ones, or authority figures such as teachers. We all have a ‘dark’ side that we prefer to keep hidden so that we’re seen as likeable, or kind. Just like day has night, we all have qualities of light and dark. But what’s important is how we recognise this and keep ourselves in balance.

If we are out of balance our ‘shadow’ self can take over and we can operate from a place of disharmony. Healing begins when we start to identify where these triggers – often stored in our subconscious – stemmed from and we can begin to accept all parts of ourselves, and learn to express ourselves in a more healthy way. This is not a journey for the faint hearted and takes a lot of courage, self discovery and inner work. When you are triggered by someone else’s actions, try to understand where in your own life that trigger comes from. Explore any judgements or negative responses from your care givers or authority figures and how that may have led to your inability to express yourself. Identify any repeating patterns throughout your life and how they have held you back. Contact me to discuss how I can help you with this…